Courtship with wife
Frye describes meeting his wife and their early courtship during their college years. Both students at North Carolina A&T State University, they became romantically involved after attending a dance together. Frye recalls with fondness how she wrote him letters everyday while he was stationed in Japan during the mid-1950s. They were married upon his return to Greensboro.
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Oral History Interview with Henry Ell Frye, February 18 and 26, 1992. Interview C-0091. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) in the Southern Oral History Program Collection, Southern Historical Collection, Wilson Library, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
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- AMY E. BOENING:
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Was it through the student assembly that you met your wife?
- HENRY ELL FRYE:
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No, that's an interesting story. We had an organization known
as Alpha Kappa Mu Honor Society which was primarily in black colleges
and universities. And I was the dean of pledges. We sent letters to
freshmen who had averages, academic averages above some certain level.
And so one of the persons that I sent one to was E. Shirley Taylor. And
I think that's the way I first met her. But in terms of
actually becoming boyfriend/girlfriend, that occurred later. I did not
have a steady girlfriend at that time. But there was a young lady that I
liked. And so I had invited her to come to something, some party that we
were having, a dance or something. And she kept putting me off. And
after about the third time, she said she hadn't decided
whether she was going home that weekend or something. And I said the
next decent lady I see walking past I'm going to ask her to
go to this dance with me. And the next one I saw was Shirley. And so I
asked her if she would go to the dance with me. She put me off. Any
rate, we were in the same class, incidentally, so she had figured she
would see me at the class, at the next class meeting, and she had
planned all of the time to go, but she wasn't going to give
me an immediate answer. Any rate, it turned out that I didn't
go to the class the next day. And so I think she got real upset because
she really wanted to go. But to make a long story short she finally, she
finally got word to me that she would go. And it's very
interesting, at that dance, just prior to that, I had gone to some
dances with some other ladies, who, for some reason or other, would not
leave me, you understand. Every dance, they would
either catch hold of me or stay with me and I didn't like
that. I liked to kind of be free at that time. And Shirley -
if I wanted to dance she danced, if I didn't, she went on
with somebody else. And I liked that. And so one thing led to another,
and we became fairly close before I left A & T. Then after I
left and went into service she wrote me every day that I was in
Japan.
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- HENRY ELL FRYE:
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She wrote a letter every day. And she had some beautiful pink stationery
and blue stationery. And I think it had a little scent to it. But I
looked forward to, I could tell when the mail came, I could spot her
letters among the mail anytime. I kind of liked that.
- AMY E. BOENING:
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I hear you were quite a poet. Did you ever write her love letters and
poems?
- HENRY ELL FRYE:
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Not very much. I may have written one or two poems, or something of that
nature. Some of my letters may have been just a tiny bit romantic, but
not too much.