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Excerpt from Oral History Interview with Johnnie Jones, August 27, 1976. Interview H-0273. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) See Entire Interview >>

Courtship and fatherly advice

Jones is somewhat reticent about his courtship of his wife, but he does recall that his father used to give him and his brother advice about women.

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Oral History Interview with Johnnie Jones, August 27, 1976. Interview H-0273. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) in the Southern Oral History Program Collection, Southern Historical Collection, Wilson Library, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

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BRENT GLASS:
Where would you go around here? Where could a young couple go? There were no movies, right?
JOHNNIE JONES:
Yes, movies. You'd go to the movies and go to the church and mess around. I've always been a man that goes to church on Sunday morning. And I get up Sunday morning, I'm headed for the church. I'd say, "You can stay here 'til I get back if you want; I'm going to church. Or you can come on and go with me to church." I'd leave them here and go on.
BRENT GLASS:
Well, when you were growing up, how did young men learn about women?
JOHNNIE JONES:
Well, they didn't have to learn them, they already know it. See, that's one thing you don't have to learn, a man or a woman. They already know that. It come up in moderation.
BRENT GLASS:
Oh really?
JOHNNIE JONES:
Yes.
BRENT GLASS:
Your father never sat you down and said, "Now look, son, this is what woman's like, or this is what you do with a girl, and so on and so forth"?
JOHNNIE JONES:
Yes, he'd tell you that. And in other words, he'd tell you, he'd say, "Don't you marry that girl. She ain't the right type for you." He'd say, "She's a bad girl, so don't do so and so." Well, that's left with you then. He tried to straighten me out. I remember him telling my brother once (he was about to marry a woman), he said, "Don't you marry that girl." And he messed around and married her. Well, he got the bad end of the deal.
BRENT GLASS:
He did?
JOHNNIE JONES:
Yes.
BRENT GLASS:
What was the reason your father had told him not to marry her?
JOHNNIE JONES:
Well, one thing, she'd run around, and she'd drink and mess around. He knowed it, but he wouldn't sit down and tell him the whole detail; he'd give him a hint of it. But he couldn't stop him. He just kept from doing what Daddy told him not to do. See, I've always been a hand. If I was going to do something, I'd go talk with my father.