Because there was so many people in the family we learned early that if
you wanted anything other than the, the shelter, food and clothing, you
had to go get it yourself. So I started to work when I was fourteen. And
during high school I drove the school bus and I worked at Colonial
Store, which was a grocery store, and went to school. And then after I
graduated I was making plans to go to college and I'd saved
up all my money, so I would have enough for the first year at Elon. And,
the store closed, and one of the members from Byrd's Food
Center came to Colonial Store and wanted my sister and myself to come to
work for them. She choose not to and I needed the money. I was eighteen
at that
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I needed the money to get in school. So I went to work for
Byrd's and I met Bruce then. Well, during the summer, my
brother had had an auto accident and I was the only one with money. And
he had no insurance and so I had to take the money - I didn't
have to, I just felt compelled and I couldn't stand to see my
mother worry about what he would do. So we used my college money. And,
it just kind of took the winds out of my sails for a while. And, it was
like the worst tragedy in this whole world that I had lost my dream and
I had, I had gone so far in making sure that I had just enough money to
pay my tuition, my books - everything. And I would live at home and go
to school. And, then I thought, well, I'll do something
different but I can't do anything different without money. So
I continued to work. I met Bruce that summer. And, he used to come and
stand and look at me. And so I told somebody that knew him, I said, tell
him to stop looking at me, if he wants a date have him to ask me,
otherwise stop looking at me, cause he was making me nervous. So he
asked me for a date and I immediately fell in love, head over heels in
love with him because he kissed my hand and nobody had ever kissed my
hand before. On, at the end of the first date - we just talked and
talked and talked and talked and talked - and he kissed my hand while I
was walking up the steps. And I was lost from that point on it was it.
And besides he was, he was very intelligent and he had a different
world, and I thought, well maybe I ought to change worlds. And so we
dated for a couple of years and I continued to work. And I became active
in working with the kids in the Elon Orphanage on a volunteer basis.
Wanted to bring 'em all
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I got married a couple of years later. Mike and Brian were born. Mike
was born and a couple of years later Brian. And at that time we were
living on Bass's Mountain, which is his folks'
land. That is now his. And, there was just not the right sense of
community. Even though three-fourths of the people in the neighborhood
were his relatives, distant or close, or whatever, there was no sense of
community; there was no sense of, of togetherness. And if you had
problems, you had your problems all by yourself. And their reserve was
such that they didn't, unless they were invited, they never
dared cross that line. Now who in the time of trouble is going to think
of saying, holloring at their neighbor, saying I need your help? To me,
it ought to be obvious that somebody is having troubles and they need
your help. And it just wasn't right for raising Mike and
Brian - just was not right. And this house had - the Perry's
kids had built this house maybe fifteen years before and there had been
a series of people in and out, some of them newlyweds in the community
that would live here for a short time before they built their own home
or move somewhere else. And this was for sale and it was right in the
community and Bruce and I came and looked at it. And we decided this is
where we wanted to be. And Bruce has always loved Chapel Hill. And at
that time he was working at the University [of North Carolina at Chapel
Hill], and come to think of it, so was I. And it just seemed to be a
perfect move and I wanted Mike and Brian to go to the schools here as
opposed to Alamance county.