Limited exposure to non-Cambodians for a Cambodian immigrant
Kong remembers two modes of acculturation: Cambodian students who had become Americanized and "cool," and her experiences with other Cambodians at the Greensboro Buddhist Center, where she could play with other Cambodian children without pressure to act American. Except for at school, Kong had limited exposure to white Americans.
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Oral History Interview with Ran Kong, November 25, 2000. Interview K-0269. Southern Oral History Program Collection (#4007) in the Southern Oral History Program Collection, Southern Historical Collection, Wilson Library, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.
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- BARBARA LAU:
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So just because they were Cambodian doesn't mean they were
kids that you got along with? Is that what you were trying to say?
- RAN KONG:
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No. I think, you were just asking me in terms of, you know, how did the
other kids treat you. I think it was like the other Cambodian girls who
had been there had— I guess what I'm trying to say
is that they had developed, they were cool. You know, they had developed
this image that they were really smart. They were more Americanized than I was. And so when I came in, they were like,
oh, this other Cambodian girl, she's our friend too. And so I
was accepted. But it was always in a way—there was always
like this competition, sort of to see who's smarter and
stuff. I remember that with our multiplication tests.
- BARBARA LAU:
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Where else did you see Cambodian kids, I mean, outside of school?
- RAN KONG:
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Outside of school I'd see them in the community at the
temple, basically, is where I'd see them.
- BARBARA LAU:
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So tell me what it was like when you were a kid and you were at the
temple here at the Greensboro Buddhist Center?
- RAN KONG:
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It was fun. I just remember, jumping across the tables that the monk had
built, just running around playing hide and seek, or playing whatever
games that the kids thought up around here. And so whenever there was a
ceremony we'd come and I'd stick with my
grandmother for five minutes and then run and play. And then
she'd come and call me back. And then I'd have to
go back and sulk because I couldn't play with the other kids.
- BARBARA LAU:
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So being with other Cambodians and community kinds of celebrations,
that's something you would look forward to?
- RAN KONG:
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Definitely.
- BARBARA LAU:
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Tell me why.
- RAN KONG:
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I don't know. It was just fun. Like just as a kid, all you
want to do is play, play, play, play, play. So you
know, we play at school, but at school, you know, there's a
certain time, you can only go out to the playground and play for like 45
minutes each day and then you'd have to come back in and work
some more. But here at the temple, it was just like whatever, you could
just do whatever, get together with a group of kids and play hide and
seek for hours until your parents call you to go home or whatever. And I
guess just like that freedom of having like no constraints like at
school, that was what really made it like fun here at the temple on the
weekends. And plus, you stay at home, there's nothing to do.
- BARBARA LAU:
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So you didn't play as much with the neighborhood kids, you
played more with other Cambodian kids at the temple?
- RAN KONG:
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Yes. In my neighborhood, let's see, as far as I remember,
every neighborhood that I've lived in has always had a
Cambodian. After we moved from that apartment into our second house,
right, our backyards were connected to another Cambodian
family's backyard. It was actually Romato's
family. And Romato and I grew up— you know, sort of grew up
together. We were about the same age. And so I always remember going
over, you know, going across the fence to her house and playing with her
on her swing set, or she would come across to by backyard and play. And
also I think my mom babysat for Cambodian kids. And so I was always
busy, helping her, entertaining them. So I never really got a chance to
go out into like the neighborhood and play with other kids.
- BARBARA LAU:
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So your exposure to other kids was sort of limited?
- RAN KONG:
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Yes, just basically school. That was my exposure to other kids.